3 Simple Contentments

Offered by Éowyn Ahlstrom

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During the cold winter months, our woodstove becomes the focal point of our daily rhythms. We stack and carry logs, feed the stove throughout the day, and frequently clean up debris from the kindling.

Today, while sweeping, the taste of contentment visited my heart. The broom is a short-handled one, so I fold over at the hips to sweep. The area to be cleaned is also small, just one little raised section of tile
around the stove. For a gleaming clear moment, as bristles trail across ceramic, all seems well - the sense of body gently moving, the seeing of colors and forms, and the hearing of broom-bristles trailing over the floor. Nothing special here, but tuning into the sense of quiet contentment gives my heart whole worlds of peace, independent of the bustle of the day, somehow unrelated to the brush strokes and the wood dust.

Sweeping

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It’s a work meeting scene… We sit at a small conference table, two colleagues who are also friends, fellow human beings for whom I feel respect and care. We are exploring, figuring out, feeling our way around. We are questioning: how to proceed?

We are working on a project I care about. In some moments I sense my heart subtly squeezing up, when the ideas in the room seem like they may take things in a direction I’d prefer they not go. Other moments, my heart leaps up invisibly, I hope, imagining the work may go well, for me and all concerned.

Somewhere quietly in the background, independent of this relational work process, untouched by the possible successes and failures, there’s this steady sense of okay-ness. Contentment simply shows up, participates the conversation, listening and speaking, waiting patiently to see where we flow naturally. It’s like a river finding its way through the land, with nature rightly in the lead.

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This morning I dropped my daily vitamin on the kitchen floor. I heard it clatter on the linoleum for a moment, clicking along to rest near the microwave stand, small yellow pill standing out from the brick-red floor. For an instant, a flash of irritation moved through me, asserting, “It should not be this way!” Then, a quieter remembering, oh, yes, but look here now, it is this way. Vitamins sometimes fall on floors. It’s gravity.

Once again, contentment flows into my heart. Things don’t need to be perfect! Stooping over, deciding to use the “five second rule” and eat the vitamin anyhow – there’s nothing special here either, except perhaps the joyful recognition that contentment has some good friends: gratitude, appreciation, patience.

Has contentment visited you lately? In my experience, mindfulness practice tends to invite these unexpected moments of serenity. Have you noticed this too? It would be fun to hear about your experiences.

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Hi Marilyn, Since you posted your reply as an attachment, folks will have to download it to read your thoughts. So, hoping this is okay, I am quoting it below your reflections more accessible to the community. Thanks for writing, as it was a joy to read about the connections you made between STOP practice and the 3 Contentments I described in the original post. Warm regards, Eowyn

Beautiful imagery, Eowyn. Rich evocative examples. Thank you for your candor and your graceful modeling of this way of being in the world.
Your post and your question about unexpected moments of serenity brings to mind the joy and ease that is arising as S.T.O.P. practice becomes more and more habitual.

  1.  While performing some task, muscle tension catches the attention. Here the "S," the "stop" happens.
    
  2.  The "T," the "taking of a breath," happens.
    
  3.  The "O," the "intentionally observing" recognizes tension and aggression.
    

a. At this point the muscles ease, as if they had done their job in attracting the attention.
b. There is gratitude for the noticing of the sensation.
c. And a curiosity about the tension and aggression, which is best described as opposing sides: one is forcing the doing of the task, and the other side resisting the doing, which makes a misery of the activity.
d. This painful, ineffective mode of operation is observed, really seen and felt; honored, if you will, and soon as it is acknowledged, it falls away, as does the tension in the upper back.
e. Waves of gratitude arise. Ordinary sensations are recognized as miracles, are appreciated from the heart. There is pure joy; appreciation of the aliveness of the body, the countless mysteries of the universe seen in a bird at the feeder or warm soapy water on the hands, or the functioning of the digestive system, a nearby car door slamming, the capacity to be aware, everything is momentarily seen as miracles, including the task at hand,
4. which becomes a sensory experience of awareness, warmth and gentleness. The habit of forcing it and resisting it melts as thoughts, emotions and bodily sensations are simply observed. There is an openness that allows:
a. the recognition of the task’s value and enjoys the aliveness of the body and mind and the completing of the task or,
b. the discovery of how the task can be revised or adapted or shifted in some way, or
c. the conclusion that the task is unnecessary or mis-timed, and can be dropped or postponed.
And that’s the “P” of "proceed and new possibilities."
5. Of course, sometime later the old habits of tension and aggression are again in full swing, the body again sends up an alarm which, thanks to mindfulness practice, is more likely to be noticed, and the S.T.O.P. approach kicks in again, increasingly, with each application, taking on more of a life of its own.
Reading your post, Eowyn, brought these recent “S.T.O.P.” moments to mind. Contentment increasingly has a chance as these practices are repeated and become the new habits. Taking some time to articulate them in response to your question has clarified them even more. Thank you!